A Month of Worship: Celebrate Her, In and Out of Bed, to Honor Women’s History Month
Every March, people worldwide dedicate 31 days to highlight the achievements of phenomenal women across the globe.
But you don’t have to search far and wide to find women worth celebrating.
There’s an intimate, personal way to honor this month: showering your special woman with focused, loving attention.
While we believe every day is enough reason to celebrate each other and your relationship, we love to be extra.
A month of worship is exactly that.
It’s about going the extra mile to celebrate her—her mind, her sensuality, her laughter, her hustle, her deepest desires.
Show her that you see her, you hear her, and you respect her.
Then, bring that energy to the bedroom and let her know that her pleasure is a priority.
Ready to make this month a meaningful one?
4 Ways To Appreciate Her Outside the Bedroom: Nurturing Her Spirit
Great sex starts outside the bedroom. Before you focus on pleasing her in bed, spend time ensuring she feels loved and supported out of the bedroom.
Even something as little as taking out the trash without being asked or taking over some of the mental load off her plate can make a huge difference in how she feels.
Here are four more ideas to help you celebrate your partner this month:
Show Love Through Small Acts of Appreciation
BIG gestures certainly have their place—like the spontaneous weekend getaway or jewelry “just because.”
However, not all acts of appreciation have to be huge.
The most impactful forms of love are actually small, consistent gestures that say, I notice you, I value you, and I want to make your life easier.
Compliments on the Fly
When’s the last time you complimented your partner? Told her how beautiful she looks, how delicious the dinner she made is, or how you simply love the way she smiles?
Don’t hold back on verbal affirmations!
If she’s glowing in that new outfit, tell her.
If her laugh lights up the entire room, be certain she knows it.
If you admire how she handled your tantrum-heavy toddler, let her know.
You don’t need an occasion for compliments—when something your partner does lights you up from the inside, tell her.
Acts of Service
If she mentions that she hates dealing with upcoming car maintenance, take the initiative and schedule her oil change or fill up the gas tank.
Don’t wait for her to ask for help.
If she’s overwhelmed with work deadlines, do the groceries and take over handling the kids until things calm down.
These simple things can boost her happiness (especially if she doesn’t have to ask for them).
Thoughtful Gestures
Think beyond the usual flower bouquet here.
Slip a sweet note in her purse before she leaves for work. Or, send her a nice text saying “You’re killing it” if you know she’s going through a rough patch.
If she’s coffee-obsessed, surprise her with her favorite brew on a Sunday morning. Or, have a cup ready and waiting for her as she gets out of the shower.
Be observant about what she loves and conscious of all the small ways you can make her day.
Offer Emotional Support & Open Communication
Let’s be honest: All of us struggle with active listening from time to time. We’re just so eager to participate in the conversation that we forget that listening is equally important as talking.
Hone in on your communication skills and find ways to offer her emotional support.
When your partner expresses frustrations, resist the urge to “fix” things or offer solutions. Simply give her the space to share her feelings and listen.
You may ask what her needs from you: “Honey, would you like me to listen to you vent, or do you want me to give you a solution to your problem?”
Now, you don’t have to be 100% sure why she feels the way she does or agree with her. But you can still validate her feelings so she feels heard and seen.
Try something like:
“I understand why that would upset you.”
“It makes sense you’re feeling that way.”
Give her a pep talk when she needs one, and offer reassurance. That’s what good partners do for each other.
Also, when speaking to her, be fully present. Don’t scroll on your phone, watch TV, or listen to a podcast in the background.
Give her your full, undivided attention.
Celebrate Her Sexuality Through Words
Women’s History Month is a powerful reminder that women fought to own their bodies and express their sexuality the way they desire, without shame.
Honor her freedom, body, and sexual prowess through words so she feels desired and appreciated.
If she’s self-conscious about a certain body part, share your honest admiration for that area.
Let her know what turns you on about her and why.
Encourage her to share her fantasies and desires. And don’t judge what she shares.
Send her a flirty text mid-afternoon: “I can’t stop thinking about how incredible your pussy felt around my cock last night.”
Or leave a handwritten love note on the bathroom mirror: “You’re the sexiest thing I’ve ever seen. I’m so lucky you’re mine.”
Playful teasing keeps the mood electric all day long and builds anticipation.
Organize a Romantic Date Night
Who doesn’t love a good, romantic date night?
We get it, when life gets in the way, it’s easy to let date night slip. And before you know it, it’s been months since you had quality one-on-one time with each other.
So, here’s a secret: planning is hot!
Schedule a time on both your calendars for a date night, and take charge of organizing the activities.
It doesn’t have to be a fancy restaurant dinner or a weekend trip. You can simply do a low-key romantic meal at home, with some candles and sensual music in the background.
7 Ways To Appreciate Her in the Bedroom: Celebrating Her Pleasure
It’s time for the juicy part: the bedroom (or living room sofa, kitchen counter, shower—we don’t judge).
Here are simple ways you can worship her body. Taking sensuality to a whole new level this month (and beyond):
Take Your Time
Slow down and truly savor every curve, explore every inch of her skin, and linger longer on things that make her moan.
When pleasing your partner, it’s all about her. She must know there’s no pressure to reciprocate—she can fully relax and enjoy each moment.
Start with soft kisses and gentle touches. Run your fingertips along her arms, neck, and thighs. Let the anticipation build as you explore.
Lock eyes. Eye contact is often overlooked, but it can greatly deepen emotional intimacy and enhance the experience.
Time is a precious resource. When you give her the gift of time, you’re telling her: “I cherish every moment with you.”
Shower Her With Words of Appreciation
Our brain is the largest sex organ. Turn her on with your words before you even touch her.
When she moans or arches her back, tell her how incredibly sexy she is:
“I love the way your body moves.”
“Hearing you right now is driving me wild.”
Let her know how much you appreciate the way she expresses herself:
“Your confidence turns me on.”
“The way you moan is so unbelievably hot.”
If she’s bold enough to try something new with you, make sure you praise her for it:
“I love how adventurous you are.”
“You look so sexy when you do [X, Y, Z].”
Need more inspiration? Check out our expert guide on how to talk about fetishes.
Make Her Pleasure a Priority
Ditch your worries about performance, technique, or how you might compare to her past experiences. Focus on her sounds, how her breath hitches, and her body language.
When you listen and observe, you become more attuned to her pleasure signals, which makes you a better lover and shows her you prioritize her pleasure.
Ask her for guidance when you’re unsure how to please her. Say: “Your pleasure is my turn-on—show me what feels good.”
Honesty and vulnerability can be such a turn-on and a real game-changer.
Give a Sensual Body Massage
Who doesn’t love a slow, sensual massage at the end of a day?
It’s a perfect way to ease tension, get in the mood to play, and build anticipation.
Light a few candles, play sensual music, and create a comfortable space with cushions and soft blankets.
Use a massage oil or a massage oil candle for an added temperature play element.
Let your hands glide gently over her body, focusing on areas where she holds tension the most.
Avoid rushing into intimate areas too quickly—make things last a little longer!
Instead, focus on the back, shoulders, neck, and thighs to slowly build arousal.
You can end the massage without the happy ending or take it up a notch—see how you both feel. This might be something you talk about before the massage.
Worship Her Pussy
Make her feel adored by approaching her sacred pleasure center with a blend of reverence, curiosity, and unbridled enthusiasm.
Reframe your mindset going in: be thankful for the chance to bring her mind-blowing pleasure with your lips and tongue.
Start with slow kisses on her inner thighs, gradually making your way toward her most sensitive spot.
Use your tongue, lips, and soft breath to create a range of sensations.
Allow her responses and reactions to guide you—does she like it gentle or prefer more pressure? Is she into teasing or direct stimulation of the clit?
Don’t shy away from checking in when you are uncertain. Encourage her to touch your head and guide you.
Nothing is hotter than enthusiasm to pleasure combined with an open willingness to learn what pleases her the most.
Give her space to get aroused and climax. It might take some time, so don’t pressure her or rush her experience.
And keep up the stimulation that’s working—changing the pace or pressure at the wrong moment can throw off the rhythm (and might delay her orgasm).
Try Something New
Women’s History Month is about evolution and progress. So, bring that spirit of innovation into your bedroom routine.
It’s no secret that couples who engage in novel activities together have higher relationship satisfaction. Novelty also makes sex more exciting.
Not sure where to start? We’ve got plenty of ideas on how to spice up the bedroom:
New positions: If you’ve been only having sex in Missionary or Doggy, switch it up! Pick a new sex position to try (or even a few), and experiment with what feels good.
Erotic roleplay: Channel your alter ego for the night and pretend to be someone else. Explore these scenarios boss and assistant, professor and a student, or two strangers meeting at the bar.
Sensation play: Incorporate a blindfold, a pinwheel, or a feather tickler and experience sensation play to unlock new sensations and new pleasure.
Bondage sex: Are you into BDSM and kink? Try having sex while your partner is restrained.
Gift Arya: Arya makes novelty the new routine, so gift your partner a membership you both benefit from. We take care of everything you need; all you have to do is show up and have fun!
Stepping out of your comfort zone can be exhilarating, especially when you do it with your lover.
Bring In New Toys
Lastly, buy her a gift she’ll absolutely love—a new sex toy focused on her pleasure.
There are so many great women-led sexual wellness brands you can support that make premium, high-quality sex toys designed to enhance women’s pleasure.
And you know what’s the best part? You can use her new sex toy together! Watch her use it in a mutual masturbation session, or use it on her as a way to explore edging or powerplay.
Not sure how to choose the right toy for her? We got you—check out our best sex toys for women guide.
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This article was written for Arya by Karolina Wilde
Karolina Wilde is the author of House of Pain, the first book in a seductive dark fantasy romance trilogy, a journalist, and a sex-positive freelance writer who worked with some of the biggest brands in the world. She has a serious obsession with chocolate (dark or milk, never white, and always with salted caramel), and when she's not writing another book or another client article, she can be found playing World of Warcraft or trying to conquer her never-ending TBR pile.
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