14 Sex Role Play Ideas to Spice Up Your Bedroom

Jan 5

Are you the one always excited to dress up as someone else during Halloween? Or maybe you find Jason from Friday the 13th a turn-on because of his mask. Either way, roleplay in the bedroom might be right up your alley.

If you are curious to try stepping into a new role and exploring some of your sexual fantasies while having fun with your partner, let’s talk about sexual roleplay and 14 sexy roleplay ideas to get you inspired!

What is Sexual Roleplay

A sexual roleplay is when you and your partner take on the roles of someone else during sex. For example, you might pretend to be a nurse, and your partner pretends to play a doctor as you play out a certain scenario you agreed on beforehand.

Your sexual roleplay can be as complex, or as simple as you desire. There are no rules or requirements, and the goal is to have fun and explore different sexual fantasies with your partner.

Why You Want To Try Roleplay

One word – novelty. The Coolidge Effect tells us that almost all long-term couples will experience boredom in their relationship at some point. It’s normal, and part of life. Don’t worry, there is a solution to it and it’s bringing novelty into your relationship and sex.

“Many couples think seeking novelty means finding someone new! However, novelty could be experienced within the same coupledom in all sorts of different ways and over time,” Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, world-renowned sex and relationship expert and author of Love by Design, explains.

Roleplay is a phenomenal way to bring novelty into your relationship and sex, no matter how long you’ve been with your partner. But that’s not all!

When we surveyed over 6,000 people for the State of Intimacy Report, we found that 25.3% of couples are looking to make their sex lives more adventurous, and 20.5% wanted to explore kinks together. Roleplay can help you do both – make sex more adventurous, and it can give you an easy way to dabble into the world of BDSM and kinks.

Safety During Sexual Roleplay

Safety and setting boundaries are so important when you experiment with roleplay. Depending on your and your partner’s preferences, you might be trying to bring some hardcore fantasies to life, and it’s important that everyone feels comfortable and safe at all times. Also, you need an easy way out, hence the safeword.

First of all, have a conversation with your partner about what things you are comfortable with during roleplay scenarios, and which are off the limits. Make sure you listen to your partner and respect their boundaries too.

It’s important to keep an open mind while discussing fantasies and boundaries and be patient with each other.

Now, once you have agreed on the scenario and the boundaries, it’s time to choose a safeword. A safe word is a non-sex-related word that you can use in the middle of roleplaying to stop the scenario. A good example of a safeword is a pineapple, or an avocado – anything that is easy to remember.

If you don’t want to use safewords, you can definitely use a “traffic light system” to communicate during your roleplay scenarios. Instead of using a safeword, simply use “green,” “yellow,” or “red”:

Green means you are comfortable and happy to continue with the scenario
Yellow means you need a pause or to slow down the pace
Red means you want to stop the scenario

Either a “traffic light system” or a safeword works, as long as you have a clear and safe way to communicate during your sexploration.

14 Sexual Roleplay Ideas

1. Strangers

Hands down the most popular and easy roleplay scenario is sexy strangers. Book a date night out in town, and dress up. Leave the house separately and meet at the agreed location, pretending to be strangers. See where the night takes you.

2. Artist and the Muse

If you are creative or want to re-create that infamous scene from Titanic, then pretend that one partner is an artist, while the other is their muse. The muse can be wearing lingerie or be naked to turn up the heat… Let your imagination run wild here.

3. Nurse and a Patient

If you love playing dress-up, this can be super sexy. One partner can pretend to be a nurse, while the other pretends to be a patient and lets the nurse nurse them back to life one orgasm at a time.

4. Passenger and Flight Attendant

There is something so sexy about the plane, and the flight attendants in their sexy uniforms. It makes for a super sexy roleplay scenario, especially if you always dreamed of being a mile-high club member.

5. Professor and a Student

Pretend to be a student who seduces their college professor for a better grade. Power dynamics during roleplay are hot! Bonus points if you have a long ruler on hand so that the professor can spank you with it for being such a bad, bad girl/boy.

6. Electrician and a Housewife

A classic roleplay scenario fantasy. You can play an electrician, or a handyman, whichever fits your personal fantasy. Watch your partner do the chores, and then seduce them. Great way to spend the weekend if you ask us!

7. Masseuse and a Client

A great way to elevate a sensual massage you give to your partner is by taking on the roles of a masseuse and a client. Massages will never again feel boring. During a massage, keep your partners gaze to build sexual tension.

8. Alien and the Last Human

For all the naughty fantasy lovers – pretend to be in space, the last human who meets a sexy and seductive alien. If you need some inspiration, we recommend reading Ice Planet Barbarians beforehand. Or simply watch Avatar!

9. Boss and the Assistant

The boss and the assistant is an oldie, but a goodie and the perfect way to explore power dynamics. One partner can pretend to be the broody boss who is pinning over their assistant with a short skirt or an open shirt that shows off their muscles. Perfect powerplay scenario.

10. Landlord and a Tenant

There is something sexy about the landlord and the tenant roleplay scenario… Imagine, your rent is due, but you can’t afford it. Oh, well, it’s a good thing your landlord is attractive and willing to negotiate! The sexual tension will be through the roof with this roleplay scenario.

11. Royalty and a Servant

This is the classic powerplay scenario of royalty and a servant. If you want to take it up a notch, consider using the “Mistress” and “Servant” titles to help you better feel the roles you take on.

12. Taxi Driver and the Passenger

For those with a slight exhibitionism kink, why not go for a car drive and pretend that one partner is a taxi driver while the other is a passenger? This scenario is sexy, and very thrilling if you’re bold enough.

13. Pizza Delivery

This is another classic sex fantasy that never gets old. Have your partner go pick up takeaway pizza from your favorite local pizza restaurant. Once they are back, pretend that they are a pizza delivery guy/gal while you meet them at the door in your most seductive outfit. That pizza will taste great even cold after you’ve had a couple of Os.

14. Criminal and a Police Officer

This is a great powerplay dynamic roleplay if you and your partner really want to explore the dom/sub dynamics with roleplay. One of the partners can pretend to be the criminal, while the other is there to punish them. Bonus points if you have handcuffs or other form of restraint!

Feeling Nervous?

Are you feeling a bit nervous about trying roleplay for the first time? Well, know that you are definitely not alone! It’s pretty normal to have nervous jitters and feel unsure before trying something you haven’t tried before. Especially in the realm of sex.

Sex educator and Arya Expert Niki Davis-Fainbloom says to start slow and build up your roleplay activities. Instead of going all out the first time, try something simple. “Perhaps your first role play takes place in your house, and then you build to taking on new characters out in the real world,” she advises.

She also recommends embracing the experience and allowing yourself to have fun with your partner. “Do not be critical of what you say, and instead, be open to sounding funny or a bit ridiculous. If you giggle, that is fine; get back into character after,” she suggests.

This can help remove a lot of pressure from performing and the first time being perfect. You and your partner are here to have fun, and spend quality time together – it’s not that serious! It’s okay if things do not the way you planned them.

This article was written for Arya by Karolina Wilde

Karolina Wilde is the author of House of Pain, the first book in a seductive dark fantasy romance trilogy, a journalist, and a sex-positive freelance writer who worked with some of the biggest brands in the world. She has a serious obsession with chocolate (dark or milk, never white, and always with salted caramel), and when she's not writing another book or another client article, she can be found playing World of Warcraft or trying to conquer her never-ending TBR pile.

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