Blow Your Partner’s Mind: How To Prepare for a Romantic Date Night
This article was written for Arya by Karolina Wilde
Karolina Wilde is the author of House of Pain, the first book in a seductive dark fantasy romance trilogy, a journalist, and a sex-positive freelance writer who worked with some of the biggest brands in the world. She has a serious obsession with chocolate (dark or milk, never white, and always with salted caramel), and when she's not writing another book or another client article, she can be found playing World of Warcraft or trying to conquer her never-ending TBR pile.
Who doesn't like a romantic date night, especially if you don't have to leave your home? At Arya, we give you the tools and guidance for an unforgettable experience with your partner in the comfort of your own home. And we always recommend doing a little bit of preparation in advance.
So, whether you are doing your first Arya Scene and want to know how to prepare better, or you're simply planning a romantic date night at home with your partner, below you will find the tips on how to prepare your home and your mind for a fun, sexy and exciting night.
How To Prepare for a Romantic Date Night at Home
Schedule the Date in Advance
The first step is to actually schedule your romantic date in the calendar. And before you frown at us and dismiss the idea of scheduling time for intimacy, hear us out!
While the popular belief is that intimacy and sex are supposed to be spontaneous to be good and enjoyable, that couldn't be further from the truth. Do you know why? Because if you wait for the right moment or inspiration to have sex to strike you while you're busy with work, kids, and other adult obligations, you might never have sex again…
You see, there will always be something that will get in the way of having sex, or you might just simply be too tired. That is why the team of relationship and sex experts at Arya believe in making time on your calendar for adult play.
So, look at your and your partner's calendars and find the time that works best for you during the week. Make sure you block off enough time – you don't want to be rushing through your romantic date.
Once you have your date night scheduled, now you and your partner have something exciting to look forward to. It can be a fantastic way to build tension and maybe even engage in some dirty talk via text leading up to the big day.
Ensure There Are No Distractions
During your romantic date, you want to be 100% focused on your partner. That is especially important if your partner's love language is Quality Time. But even if it's not, paying attention to what your partner is saying and being present with them will make a world's difference.
So, how do you do that? Well, easy – remove all the possible distractions beforehand! Here are some of the things that we recommend you do:
Get a nanny: if you have the option to get a nanny or have grandparents or other family members watch kids for the night, do it! You will be much more relaxed when you don't have to worry about kids walking in on you anytime, or your toddler starting to cry in the middle of an erotic massage...
No phone policy: turn off your phones or put them on "Do Not Disturb" mode for the duration of your date. Unless you are the President of the United States or the only surgeon in a children's hospital, you can live without your phone and notifications for a few hours.
No screens: just like your phone, screens like TVs, laptops, and tablets can be very distracting during a date. So, make sure you turn them off and use them only if really needed, ex: to play music.
Lock the door: if you don't live alone and choose to play in the bedroom, make sure you lock it. This will help avoid anyone accidentally barging in when they're not supposed to.
Inform your roommates: if you live with roommates, let them know in advance that you and your partner will be having a romantic date night at home. This will also help prevent situations where your roommate comes back with a group of friends for a party, while you and your partner are in the middle of a dinner in candlelight...
Prepare Your Space
Another thing you want to do before your romantic night with your partner is to prepare your space for playtime. First, choose the space in your home where you want to spend time with your partner.
You'll want to tidy up and refresh the space. Again, remove any distractions, and pick up kid's toys so you don't accidentally step onto one in the middle of doing a striptease for your partner.
If you have a neighbor's window staring right at you through your living room window, close the curtains to give yourself some privacy. Are you playing in the bedroom? Change your sheets! Will you be having a shower together? Then, clean your bathroom!
All the preparation in advance will help you get in the mood much easier when the time comes. Plus, you won't be distracted by chores, clutter, and reminders of your adult responsibilities.
If you are doing a guided Arya night, then make sure you prepare your sexy tools and have them on hand! Place the Arya box with all the goodies somewhere where it's comfortable to reach, so you don't have to run looking for a blindfold in the middle of the steamy action, which might disrupt the vibe.
Set the Mood
Setting a sensual and erotic mood is so important! So, spend some time doing that before your playtime. Here are some ways to do it:
Light some scented candles
Turn on an essential oil diffuser with your favorite scent
Dim the lights
Play some sensual or sexy music in the background
Set up your TV screen with a fireplace background (the only acceptable use of electronics!)
Start a fire in your fireplace if you have one
All these things that you notice bars, restaurants, and hotels do to create a sensual ambiance you can do at home too. Even if you feel like your home isn't perfect, small little details like that can make all the difference!
Get in the Right Headspace
Lastly, your mind and body need to be in the right mood before a romantic date night just as much as your environment. So, give yourself some time to prepare and get ready, even if you won't be leaving your home.
Unless you are building blanket forts in your living room and doing a Harry Potter movie marathon, PJs are a no-go! Find an outfit that makes you feel good, sexy, and empowered that you can wear.
Maybe you have a pair of pants that you don't wear often or a blouse you keep for special occasions. A romantic date with your partner is the right occasion to wear those clothes.
Also, remember that getting ready for everyone will be different. You might want to have a moment to yourself to journal and meditate. It can help to alleviate stress and make sure you are in a more relaxed mood before the date.
Otherwise, even taking a long hot shower or taking a bubble bath can do the trick of washing away the stress and lifting your mood. Use a bath salt with lavender essential oils and CBD to help your mind and body relax.
Your Effort Matters
You don't need an expensive five-course meal at a Michelin-star restaurant or a weekend in Paris to blow your partner's mind and make them feel special.
Putting in a genuine effort in making the date night at home special by doing simple things like tidying up, lighting candles, and drawing a bath beforehand will make your partner feel loved and desired.
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