Arya’s Guide on How To Give a Sensual Massage
This article was written for Arya by Karolina Wilde
Karolina Wilde is the author of House of Pain, the first book in a seductive dark fantasy romance trilogy, a journalist, and a sex-positive freelance writer who worked with some of the biggest brands in the world. She has a serious obsession with chocolate (dark or milk, never white, and always with salted caramel), and when she's not writing another book or another client article, she can be found playing World of Warcraft or trying to conquer her never-ending TBR pile.
Are you curious about how to give a sensual massage to your partner? Well, you’ve come to the right place!
A sensual or erotic massage can be a great way to connect with your partner on a deeper level and find new, exciting ways to please them. That is why we put together a beginner’s guide on how to give a sensual massage.
Arya’s Guide on How To Give a Sensual Massage Your Partner Won’t Forget
What Is a Sensual Massage?
A sensual (or erotic or intimate) massage is a full-body massage that involves engaging different senses to elicit sexual pleasure for the receiving partner. The goal of the giving partner is to arouse the receiving partner and please them.
While a sensual massage often involves stimulation of intimate areas and is fully focused on sexual pleasure, it is by no means a race to an orgasm. It’s all about relaxing and allowing yourself to experience different sensations and enjoy the feel of your partner's hands on your body, rather than rushing to climax.
6 Types of Sensual Massages
Believe it or not, there are different types of sensual massages you can give your partner! Here are some that you can choose from:
1. Nuru Massage
It’s a Japanese erotic massage technique that involves full body-on-body contact. Both, the receiving and giving partners, are naked, and they both lather their bodies with massage oil. Then, the giving partner rubs their body against the receiving partner’s body. It can end with intercourse, but it doesn’t have to.
2. Yoni Massage
This is a tantric sex practice that’s focused on worshiping the vulva. The receiving partner with a vulva relaxes while the giving partner massages the vulva with their hands. The focus here is pleasurable stimulation and not orgasm.
3. Lingam Massage
It’s a tantric sex practice that’s focused on worshiping the penis. The receiving partner with a penis lays down and relaxes, while the giving partner focuses on massaging the penis and the area around it with their hands.
4. Soapy Massage
Not all sensual massages have to happen while lying down! A soapy massage involves giving the massage while in the shower. The giving partner washes their partner in the shower while giving them a massage at the same time. And you know what’s the best part? You can get as dirty as you like because the cleanup is super easy!
5. Tantric Massage
It’s a full body and genital massage that combines pleasure and spiritual work. So, unlike regular erotic massage, tantric massage involves meditation, breathwork, and energy work. It can be highly erotic and connecting for both partners.
6. Happy Ending Massage
While all the other types of massages are focused more on the pleasure and the experience of giving and receiving a massage, a happy ending massage is all about the receiver reaching an orgasm. So, the giving partner uses their hands, mouth, and tools to give the receiving partner an orgasm (or a few…).
Reasons to Give Your Partner a Sensual Massage?
There are quite a few reasons why you might want to give your partner a sensual massage. First of all, if you’ve been with your partner for a while, you might notice that sex has become less exciting with time.
Don’t worry about it, there is absolutely nothing wrong with your relationship! It’s totally normal, and one way to bring back the passion is to engage in novel activities together. A sensual massage is exactly that – a novel, fun, and sexy activity that will surely rekindle the flame.
Another reason why you might want to give your partner a sensual massage is that it might lead to better sex. You see, in heterosexual relationships, only 64% of women have an orgasm during intercourse, compared to 94% of men. That is what we call an orgasm gap.
And one of the reasons why the orgasm gap exists is that only 18.4% of women can have an orgasm from intercourse alone. Most women require clitoral stimulation and most importantly – more foreplay.
“So much of our sexuality in our culture is centered around genitals and fast release, that our body’s automatic response is to contract and rush in order to move toward a goal,” says Somatic Sex Coach and Educator Yael Shtainer. “The practice of sensual massage invites us to relax and dive deep into a vast range of feelings and sensations, from feather light tingling touch to a bolder squeeze, slap or pull.”
A sensual massage doesn’t have to lead to sex. But, if you are looking for ways to incorporate more foreplay into your sexual repertoire then, a sensual massage is the perfect thing to include on your sex menu.
It will help your partner to warm up and get in a mood better, and it will greatly enhance their chances of having an orgasm. They will surely be pleased!
And lastly, a sensual massage can be a great way for you to be more intimate with your partner and help you two deepen your emotional connection.
Here’s How To Give a Sensual Massage at Home
Have we convinced you to give a sensual massage a go? Great! Now, here’s how to give a sensual massage at home, even if you’re a total beginner:
Ask your partner what they like: before and during a sensual massage, check in with your partner about whether or not they like what you are doing. This is the best time to learn what floats their boat, and how exactly they like to be touched to bring them the most pleasure. A simple “Does that feel good, baby?” or “And how about now?” can go a long way!
Massage oil is a must: no massage oil no sensual massage! Rubbing your dry hands against your partner’s skin is not sexy, trust us. So, grab a massage oil and have it on hand when you are ready to give your partner a sensual massage. There are many different options on the market, but we love Bloomi’s Sensual Massage Oil. And if you’re looking for something special for an intimate massage, we recommend Foria’s Intimacy Sex Oil.
Massage oil candles: if you want to spice things up with some temperature play, then consider getting a sensual massage candle that doubles as a massage oil once the wax is melted. We love this one from Bijoux Indiscrets.
Get some tools: your hands are enough to massage your partner’s body and stimulate their intimate areas. But when you want to take things up a notch, consider investing in some massage tools or even using your favorite sex toys to add an additional layer of stimulation!
The setting is everything: we’re talking scented candles, dimmed lights, and sensual background music here! Set the mood beforehand to create a relaxing and sexy environment where you and your partner can enjoy each other to the fullest.
Slow seduction: slow and steady wins the race when it comes to an erotic massage. So take your time and explore each part of your partner's body slowly. Really slowly. Make sure every inch of their skin is loved and cared for!
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So, are you ready to give your partner an unforgettable sensual massage?
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