Arya’s Guide to an Unforgettable Night: 6 Date Night Ideas
This article was written for Arya by Karolina Wilde
Karolina Wilde is the author of House of Pain, the first book in a seductive dark fantasy romance trilogy, a journalist, and a sex-positive freelance writer who worked with some of the biggest brands in the world. She has a serious obsession with chocolate (dark or milk, never white, and always with salted caramel), and when she's not writing another book or another client article, she can be found playing World of Warcraft or trying to conquer her never-ending TBR pile.
Are you looking for date night ideas for married couples that are fun and exciting, yet don't require you to book a flight to Paris? Even if you're short on time and mental energy (we get it – kids, work, and household chores are A LOT) to plan a memorable date, there are small things you can do to intentionally connect with your partner.
Why Doing New Things With a Partner Is Important
Finding space in your schedules for you both to spend uninterrupted, quality time together is crucial for the overall satisfaction and health of any relationship.
Do you remember how passionate your relationship was at the very start? Well, trying new things is one way to rekindle that passion, no matter how long you’ve been together. Trying new things together is a way to keep boredom out of the relationship while keeping the excitement high longer. But that's not all!
Researchers also found that couples who try new things and overcome challenges together report feeling their connection grow as well as feeling more secure in the relationship. But wait, there is more.
When we try new things together with our partners, we tend to associate the positive, exciting feelings we felt during the activity with the way we think and feel about our partners.
For example, if you go skydiving with your partner, you'll associate the feelings you experienced while skydiving with your partner, which positively impacts the way you see their character. "It's called misattribution of arousal," explains Nicolas Velotta, Head of Relationship Research at Arya.
Okay, so we know that trying new things together with your partner is important – what now? This is where Arya comes in handy.
Arya takes the stress out of finding something new by coordinating the experience for you. You get the permission to play and explore new things with your partner while reaping the amazing benefits of the deeper connection and intimacy you cultivate through the Arya experience.
But Why Date Night?
Date nights are the perfect avenue for couples to dedicate time to exploring new things together. It's a focused time you carve out in your schedules to spend intentional time together. It shows you both care about each other and the relationship and want to put in the effort to make it thrive.
Knowing you will have that time and that something exciting will happen during your date night also helps build excitement and tension throughout the week while you wait for it. That excitement adds to the overall experience.
Arya’s 6 Out-of-the-Box Date Night Ideas for Married Couples
Now that we discussed why trying new things with your partner is important for your relationship and how intentional date nights can be a great way to do that, let's dive into Arya's date night ideas for married couples that encourage you to try something new and exciting, all while in the comfort of your own home.
Boudoir Photoshoot at Home
First on our date night ideas for married couples list is something that might seem very out-of-the-box on first blush. But before you reject the idea of a sexy photoshoot with your partner, hear us out!
Most of us have tried taking revealing photos and sharing them with our partners at least once in our lifetimes. It's fun, thrilling, and exciting to hit that Send button and wait for a (hopefully) satisfying reaction. Taking nude pictures together with your partner can be just as thrilling (if not more).
Taking sexy pictures of yourself can be a great way to learn to appreciate your body more and show yourself some. As you take pictures with your partner, you'll get to see how much they appreciate your body, and how arousing the sight of you naked (or half-naked) makes them.
You can take pictures naked, wear lingerie/underwear, or even go with a little bit of clothing on (think a shirt or pants or a dress). If you have a large mirror in the bathroom, take pictures with your partner in front of the mirror.
Let loose, and don't be afraid to laugh and giggle and play around with different locations in your home and positions. You are here to have fun and make memories, not to shoot a cover for Vogue, so focus on the experience!
At the end of your photo shoot, go over all the pictures you took with your partner and pick out your favorites. We bet sparks will be flying as you both look at the secret art you just made together.
If you want to enhance your boudoir photoshoot experience and find new ways to share the sexy pictures you take with your partner (and some of your sexy thoughts), then consider trying Arya's Talk Flirty To Me Scene.
Spa Evening at Home
Spas are great, but with so many people sharing the same hot tub, there isn't much space for private, intimate moments. You might not have a jacuzzi at home, but there are ways to re-create a relaxing spa experience at home while making it a much more intimate experience without a dozen eyes on you.
You guessed it, next on our date night ideas for married couples list we have a sensual spa evening at home for two. It will help you both relax and unwind, treat each other in various different ways, and find new ways to appreciate each other.
Even if you're used to taking a shower with your partner on a regular basis, there are ways to turn that experience into something new. How? Try a new bath bomb together, or take your favorite (water-resistant) sex toy into the shower with you and discover new ways to use it. Light a scented candle or turn on an essential oil diffuser in your bathroom to create a more spa-like experience.
If you love the idea of turning your next shower together into an unforgettable spa-inspired experience at home, then you'll love Arya's Steamy Seduction Scene. It's focused on shower play and all the fun ways you can turn a regular shower with your partner into something much more exciting...
Full Body Massage
When was the last time you gave your partner a full-body massage? If it took you longer than a minute to remember, then we know what you'll be doing on your next date night!
A full-body massage can be a great way to show your partner appreciation and love. The benefits of it are not one-sided, though! As you give your partner a massage, you will be learning a new skill that will come in handy for years to come. And you can always take turns massaging each other to make it a more interactive experience.
Learning how to do a full-body massage can be intimidating – we get it! But Arya's Treat Your Partner Scene is here to help. This Scene is designed to provide tools and guidance on pampering your partner from head to toe so you’ll know exactly what to do.
Find a New Place to Have Sex
Finding a new place in your home to have sex might not sound like the most romantic date night idea for married couples, but don't knock it till you try it! This is THE perfect effortless date night idea for couples who are short on time.
First, sit down with your partner and make a list of all the places in your home where you haven't had sex before but would like to. Think outside the box here and be as naughty as you desire – no place is off limits. Once you have the list of places, make it into a game of trying to cross off all of the locations on your list with each new date night.
If you're feeling daring and want to take your date nights to the next level, consider Arya's Undercover Lovers Scene which explores exhibitionism and provides tons of new ideas on where to play with your partner in your home and outside of it.
Game Night
Game nights are not only for folks who are tired of the club scene on the weekends. Board games can be a very bonding experience and a great way to spend a cozy night (have you ever heard of hygge, the Danish concept of cozy living?).
For your next date night, find a game you and your partner can play together. It can be as simple as Yahtzee (or any other board or dice game), a card game like Uno, or something a little bit more advanced like poker. And if you're feeling sexy, consider turning a poker night into a strip poker night.
You can also find more adult games specifically designed for couples. Arya's Stripped & Teased Scene is a great option if you want a game that will give you new ways to deepen intimacy and connection while keeping it fun and sexy.
Candlelight Dinner
You don't have to leave your home to have a romantic dinner by candlelight. With a little bit of preparation and planning in advance, you can create an unforgettable dining experience in the comfort of your home.
As always, we recommend scheduling a date night in your calendar. This way you and your partner will have something exciting to look forward to in the near future.
If you both enjoy cooking, find a new recipe to try together. You can make cooking your three-course meal part of the experience, where you both get to enjoy the fruits of your labor. You can also splurge and order fancy takeout from a restaurant you love.
You want to set up a space in your home to set a romantic mood for dinner. Dim the lights, draw the curtains to give you both privacy and to eliminate distractions and turn off electronics like your TV (now it's not the time to binge-watch a new show on Netflix!).
If you chose to have dinner at the dining table, set up the table as if it were at an actual restaurant. And don't forget the candles – a romantic dinner in the candlelight can't happen without them!
When you're ready to take your dinner in the candlelight to the next level, why not try some temperature play? The sensations of hot and cold on your body can evoke unexpected emotions, and with Arya's Playing with Fire Scene, everything you need for temperature play is at the tips of your fingers.
Your next date night doesn’t have to be boring.
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