Meet Shan Boodram, Arya’s Chief Intimacy Officer
Shan Boodram believes monogamy doesn’t have to mean monotony. In fact, monotony is the enemy of physical intimacy. The great news is you don’t have to figure out how to keep things spicy in the bedroom – that’s why you have Arya & Shan.
Here at Arya HQ, we’re starting off our summer with a bang – a few weeks ago, we had the pleasure of announcing the world-renowned sex & relationship educator and intimacy expert Shan Boodram as Arya’s Chief Intimacy Officer.
Shan is a certified sexologist with an M.S. in psychology who has been working to educate the public about sex and relationships for over fifteen years. You have probably seen her as the intimacy educator for “Too Hot To Handle” and “The Marriage Pact” or listened to her podcast Lovers & Friends. She knows exactly how to keep the passion sizzling hot in long-term relationships.
Shan believes that a happy, fulfilled life is determined by the quality of one’s intimate relationships, and it’s been her mission for years to empower others to begin a lifelong affair by learning about lust, love, and everything in between.
We believe Arya and Shan are a perfect match. We sat down with Shan to discuss her reasons for joining Arya as the Chief of Intimacy and the secret to keeping a long-term relationship passionate for years on end.
Why Arya?
Shan: Because healthy, varied intimacy is just as important as healthy, varied food. Let me explain.
We all know eating is important and eating well has a massive impact on your life and your home, but cooking, grocery shopping and investing the energy in learning to constantly make new meals is not possible for many people’s hectic lifestyles. This is why meal kits were invented and why people with all kinds of diverse needs now rely on them. I think Arya is here to do for intimacy what meal kits did for food: empower you to take control by allowing you to delegate the leg work so you can focus on the experience of enjoying…other kinds of leg work.
I believe in their mission of making breaking the routine the new routine. After getting to know the team at Arya, I knew I wanted to be a part of the company’s future as we share a commitment to normalizing sexual wellness and giving individuals the tools they need to help their relationships thrive holistically.
As the Chief Intimacy Officer, I’m excited to create valuable, entertaining, and educational content Arya couples will receive between the Scenes, working hands-on with the in-house content team to create dynamic and sexy Scenes couples can explore and hosting in-person and online events for the Arya community.
What’s the Secret Sauce to Maintaining Passion in a Relationship?
Shan: Collectively, we have been misled that a healthy relationship equates to never-ending passion. As I have seen in my work, research, and personal life, that is simply not true. As companionship builds, passion cools, and I have spent my career helping couples embrace this inevitable reality and the exciting responsibilities that come with it.
In early romance, we have lust and make love. As relationships mature, we have love and make lust. The sooner we realize this and accept it, the sooner we can start working on breathing the passion back into our long-term relationships.
How Do You Break the Routine in an LTR?
Shan: It’s simple – we have to find a way to find something new in the known, and we make doing this a ritual through automation and delegation using Arya.
Now, some people may think that if you need to automate keeping your sex life interesting, that must be because you don’t care enough or don’t know how to handle it yourself. And I believe that is a completely false interpretation.
We automate because when we really prioritize something, we want to ensure that no matter what curveballs life throws — this won’t be one of the balls that get dropped. And we delegate because, after a while in any LTR relationship, you’ve likely tried all the things you knew of beforehand, so coming up with new ideas has to be someone’s to-do.
So if one of you has the time and doesn’t mind consistently doing the research and sourcing — amazing! But if the last thing either of you is looking for is a new job, especially one that could easily be sourced out, Arya exists.
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About Shan
Shan is a certified sexologist with an M.S. in psychology who has been working to educate the public about sex and relationships for over fifteen years. She has appeared on The Today Show, The View, MTV, E!, Fox News, CNN, The New York Times, Forbes, and TIME Magazine. You can see her in action as an intimacy educator for Netflix’s Too Hot To Handle, The Marriage Pact on The Roku Channel, Ex-Rated with Andy Cohen on Peacock, or the Facebook original show Make Up Or Break Up, to name a few. She is the author of “Laid: Young People's Experiences with Sex in an Easy-Access Culture“ and “The Game of Desire: 5 Surprising Secrets to Dating with Dominance—and Getting What You Want.” In addition to her work with Arya, Shan is also the Sex and Relationship expert for dating app Bumble and a teacher with the National Coalition of Sexual Health. She lives in Los Angeles with her husband, Jared, and two daughters, Ryu and Xya.
