How To Talk About Arya With Your Partner
So, you’ve joined Arya and are excited to start your journey, but… you still haven’t told your partner about it and feel a little bit nervous. It’s totally normal, and you’re far from alone in this! Plenty of Arya’s users sign up for Arya alone and have their partner join them later on.
Trying something new, especially in the bedroom, can be nerve-wracking. And talking about sex or feelings is not easy. However, it’s essential–research shows that sexual communication is the key to a satisfying long-term relationship.
Studies show that improving communication around sex can empower partners with the necessary skills to express their desires and needs, which in turn improves their sexual satisfaction.
The good news is that we surveyed over 6,000 people for the State of Intimacy report, and we found that even if people are anxious to talk about sex with their partners, they can still have a very satisfying experience.
Just because you’re feeling nervous and unsure how to start a conversation about Arya, it’s not a problem. Let’s take a look at a few ways you can approach this conversation with your partner.
How To Talk About Arya With Your Partner
Tell Them Arya Is About Experimenting Together
Arya is a place where couples can explore their sexuality and deepen intimacy together. The whole experience is customized to address both of your needs, desires, and personalities.
Arya is not a therapist, even though it can be therapeutic. It’s also not entirely sex education, even though we work with sex and relationship experts to make all the content educational and informative.
Arya is about learning new skills, techniques, and toys and exploring your erotic fantasies. Together.
Try these conversation starters:
“I’d love to try roleplay in the bedroom — I’ve got some roleplay ideas for us. Do you think you’d be open to it?”
“I’ve found this couples wellness app that sounds fun. What do you think about signing up together?”
“I’ve found an app that offers curated date night experiences for couples. We only need to sign up and they do all the work for us. I’d love to try it sometime together.”
Tell Them Why You’re Excited To Explore Together
Show your partner that you’re excited to try Arya with them. Whether it’s because you want to discover new kinks or simply want to deepen your connection, share it with them. Also, ask your partner what they are excited about when it comes to Arya. What is it that they’re looking forward to the most?
Try these conversation starters:
“I’m very excited to learn new ways to bring you pleasure, my love.”
“I feel connected with you, but I would like to deepen our connection even further. What are you most excited about?”
“I’m excited to try something we haven’t tried together yet. How about you?”
Keep It Light and Fun
At Arya, we are huge fans of laughing things off, even when things go wrong (especially when things go wrong!) while exploring. So, when you talk about Arya with your partner, keep your tone light and be playful. It’ll make your partner much more open to a conversation.
Avoid Framing the Relationship or Your Partner as a Problem
Always approach the conversation from the positive side. When you talk about Arya with your partner, emphasize that it’s an entertainment platform designed for couples to explore without shame or worries.
Just because you want to try something new, it doesn’t mean your relationship has a problem. State of Intimacy report shows that the majority of Arya couples are very satisfied with their relationships and sex lives. They just want more of the good things.
Try these conversation starters:
“I love our sex life. And I was thinking about trying something new in the bedroom… What do you think about that?”
“I love it when we try new things together. I was thinking about trying out this couple’s wellness app, Arya. What do you think?”
Avoid Getting Defensive
It’s very easy to become defensive when we feel like we’re being threatened or not heard by our partners. When you talk about Arya with your partner, and they appear hesitant or reject the idea at first, avoid getting defensive.
It’s OK to have different opinions, desires, and emotions from your partner. The key is being respectful and finding a way to bridge the gap so both partners are satisfied. And that’s where Arya comes into play–we help couples bridge the gap between their unique desires, wants, and needs.
Try these conversation starters:
“I think trying this out might help us discover new things about ourselves and each other. Would you be open to it?”
Tell Them Arya Is a Personalized Experience
Arya offers intimacy expert guidance that’s curated and personalized for you and your partner. That’s why we have an in-depth onboarding process that allows you both to tell us about you as much as possible.
Remind your partner that the whole experience is tailored to both of your wants, needs, and desires.
Try these conversation starters:
“We receive personalized Scenes that will fulfill both of our wants. Isn’t that exciting?”
Show, Don’t Tell
Sometimes, it’s better to show, don’t tell. Meaning: allow your partner to experience the night of Arya so they can fully see for themselves how fun and exciting it can be.
Try these conversation starters:
“Babe, I have a surprise for you. Get ready for a romantic night at home.”
“I was thinking about our next date night… how do you feel if I was in charge? I have a surprise for you I think you’ll love.”
Share Other People’s Experiences With Your Partner
Many of our users are extremely passionate about their Arya journeys and happily share their thoughts and feedback with us. Maybe sharing these with your partner can help them get on board:
It’s an experience that deepens connection and opens opportunities in the bedroom that you might really enjoy — it’s fun knowing that there’s still so many new things that we haven’t tried.” J, 31
“We’ve never done anything like Arya before. It put a spark in our marriage and relationship and really opened us up to new things. We’re finding out who our true selves are physically and what we really like. It’s been awesome.” T, 42
"It was like having an accountability buddy, reminding you to set some time aside for yourselves.“ J, 37
Join Arya Community
Lastly, consider joining Arya’s private Facebook Community. It’s only for people interested in becoming members and existing members, and it's where they can find like-minded people to share their experiences and best relationship and sex tips.
It’s a safe space for everyone, and maybe talking with other Arya members can help you and your partner become more comfortable with the idea of trying Arya.
Ready to bring your fantasies to life?
Sign up for Arya today.
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