The Best Valentine’s Gifts To Give Your Partner Based on Their Erotic Persona
This article was written for Arya by Karolina Wilde
Karolina Wilde is the author of House of Pain, the first book in a seductive dark fantasy romance trilogy, a journalist, and a sex-positive freelance writer who worked with some of the biggest brands in the world. She has a serious obsession with chocolate (dark or milk, never white, and always with salted caramel), and when she's not writing another book or another client article, she can be found playing World of Warcraft or trying to conquer her never-ending TBR pile.
With Valentine’s Day coming up, it’s time to start looking for perfect Valentine’s gifts for your partner. If you’re unsure what to give your partner this year, we've got you covered! At Arya, we wanted to make choosing the perfect gift as easy as possible, so we made a gift guide based on our Erotic Personas archetypes.
Find out what your partner’s (and yours) Erotic Persona is and choose the perfect gift (or gifts…) – gifting a thoughtful present has never been easier!
Arya’s Romantic Valentine's Gifts for Every Erotic Persona
Gifts for The Romantic
"The Romantic is someone who thrives off the responsive desire,” explains Head of Relationship Research at Arya, Nicholas Velotta.
Key characteristics of The Romantic:
Contextual
Responsive desire
Communication
Intimacy
Closeness
Vulnerability
If your partner is The Romantic, then here are the best Valentine’s gifts you can give them that they will absolutely love:
Quinn
Romantics are all about building the tension before sex, and audio erotica is a super easy and erotic way to do that. Audio erotica subscription Quinn has an extensive library of erotic stories for every taste, so your partner will surely find something that they enjoy.
Shunga Edible Chocolate Body Paint
Valentine’s Day is all about chocolate… But why not make it more interesting this year round by gifting your partner edible chocolate body paint instead of regular box chocolates? You can paint their body, and then slowly lick the paint off – that will surely build the tension!
TABS Chocolates
Another non-traditional chocolate gift for chocolate lovers is the TABS aphrodisiac chocolate. It’s supposed to enhance your mood and sensations, making the intimate time with your partner more sensual than usual. Does it work? Share the tab of chocolate with your partner and find out.
Where Should We Begin by Esther Perel
Romantic needs emotional closeness and intimacy to feel loved by their partner. One way to deepen your emotional connection is through talking about personal things. World-renowned sex and relationship expert Esther Perel has designed a game for couples with this purpose in mind – to bring them closer together and encourage sharing personal, meaningful things.
Gifts for The Director
The Director experiences sex in a linear fashion – they become aroused, they become desirous and they want to have sex. They will be affected by the frequency of sex and they will see sex as the main source of connection.
Key characteristics of The Director:
Spontaneous desire
Physicality
Powerplay
Orgasm is a marker of pleasure
If your partner is The Director, here are some Valentine’s gifts that will surely make them satisfied:
Fujifilm Instax Square Link Smartphone Printer
Directors are often visual, so a perfect gift for them is a smartphone printer which allows them to take sexy pictures of you and then print them out so they can keep it for later. Make taking sexy pictures into a fun date night activity and see where the night takes you.
Dame Dip Vibe
Directors are all about getting to the finish line during sex, and a great quality sex toy can help them get there faster. Dame’s Dip is sexy and feels great against the body. It can be used externally or internally and fits different anatomies perfectly.
Maude Vibe
Another gift that every Director will appreciate is maude’s Vibe. This unisex toy is powerful, yet fits inside the palm of your hand. If your Director loves luxury sex toys, this one is the perfect gift.
Cake Stroker
For Directors with penises in your life, you can’t go wrong with a good quality stroker sleeve. They can use it by themselves to enhance masturbation sessions, or you can use it together to make handjobs and blowjobs feel even better.
Jizz Machine Sweats by Awkward Essentials
Directors will appreciate the subtle humor of wearing these sweatpants. Plus, they are so comfortable and soft, that it will be their new favorite loungewear!
Gifts for The Adventurer
The Adventurer is always curious and excited to explore. "The Adventurer is more likely to be kinky. Whether it’s vanilla kinks (PDA) or hardcore kinks (BDSM)," says Velotta.
Key characteristics of The Adventurer:
Novelty
Versatility
Taboo
Kinks
If your partner is The Adventurer, here are some fun and sexy gifts that will satisfy their desire to explore:
CBD Intimacy Sex Oil by Foria
Adventurers will appreciate a lube that’s made with CBD because it is new, it is fun and it is different. This one from Foria is super luxurious and feels absolutely amazing. CBD lubes are great for enhancing arousal and intensifying the sensations.
Beginner’s Bondage Kit by Liebe Seele
Of course, a BDSM restrain kit is the perfect gift for the Adventurer in your life. They will appreciate the high quality and variety that comes in this bondage kit from Lieve Seele. Get ready to be tied up!
Love is Art Kit
For the Adventurer who’s creative and artsy, we recommend gifting a sex painting kit. It is a wonderful way to do something out of the box, yet still sexy. And you will have a sex painting you can hang on the wall once you’re done that will remind you of your experience for years to come!
Vesper Vibrator Necklace by Crave
Adventurers can be kinky, and they will surely appreciate a little bit of exhibitionism. This luxurious necklace vibrator is sleek and discreet, yet still packs a punch! Your partner can wear it in public while you’re on a date, and even slip it under the table if they are feeling extra daring.
Romantic Scavenger Hunt Kit by Scavenger Box
Last but certainly not least, a great gift for an Adventurer is this romantic scavenger hunt kit that will give you both an excuse to have an extra special date night. It’s a super fun and thoughtful gift that will allow you to try something new while further deepening your bond.
Gifts for The Connector
For The Connector, physical, mental, and environmental stimulation are all super important when exploring their eroticism.
Key characteristics of The Connector:
Diverse forms of touch
Sensation play
Physical touch is the main love language
Responsive desire
If your partner is The Connector, here are some gifts they will surely appreciate:
Massage Oil Candle by Je Joue
Nothing better after a long day or a long week than a sensual massage… This luxurious massage oil candle is two in one – you can give your partner a sensual massage and explore temperature play if you both are in the mood to play. Plus, it smells divine, which every Connector will appreciate.
Black Sensory Fingertips by Sportsheets
These claws were made with The Connector in mind. They are sexy and elegant and will allow you to give your partner the sensory experience they will surely appreciate. Plus, it’s one more way for them to explore physical touch that’s unique and different.
Feather Tickler by Sportsheets
This feather tickler is the perfect gift if you want to add more sensory play to your sexual repertoire. Plus, you can use it to explore just how orgasmic your partner can be when you use this to stimulate their nipples and other sensitive areas…
Nipple Clamps by Liebe Seele
Is your partner a fan of a little bit of pleasurable pain? Well, then these sexy and premium nipple clamps will definitely be their favorite gift under the Christmas tree this year.
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